Using Relay

Calling a TTY

If the deaf, hard of hearing, or mute person you want to call has a TTY (also known as a TDD), you will first need to call a relay operator. Dial 711 anywhere in the United States to reach the relay service. If you forget the 711 number to the relay service, you can always look up the local number in the phonebook.

The operator (sometimes referred to as the "relayer") will ask you for the number of the TTY user you wish to call, and the operator will dial it for you. Once the person you are calling answers the TTY, the relayer will speak as if he or she was the TTY user, saying exactly what the TTY user types.

Speak as if you're talking directly to the TTY user. Don't say things like, "Tell her I am going to be there," or "Can you tell him I'm going to be late?" The relayer will type exactly what you say. Remember to speak slowly and clearly enough for the relayer to type what you're saying.

At the beginning of the conversation, identify yourself or else the relayer will just type that a male or female is talking. Also, remember that the relayer will type any others sounds he or she hears. You cannot flush the toilet, thinking that the TTY user you are calling will not be aware of it because they are deaf.

When calling a TTY user, you need to take turns talking, similar to using two-way radios. When the TTY user is done typing what they want to say, he or she will type "GA," and the relayer will say to you, "Go ahead." Then it is your turn to speak. When you are done talking, say "Go ahead." When the TTY user is ready to end the conversation and hang up, he or she will type "GA to SK," meaning "Go ahead to stop keying," and the relayer will tell you that the person is ready to hang up. If you are ready to hang up too, just thank them and say goodbye before handing up.

However, if you have something more to say, you can continue the conversation. If you want to end the conversation, after you are done with your turn talking, say, "Go ahead to stop keying." When the TTY user hangs up, they will type "SK" or "SKSK," and the relayer will tell you the person is hanging up.

Click here for common TTY and relay abbreviations.

Calling a Video Phone

As video phone (VP) and Internet technology is much more advanced than the old TTY system, unlike calling a TTY user where you need to call the relay service and give them the number of the TTY to dial, you can dial a video phone number directly, and you will automatically be connected to a relay operator who will already have the number of the video phone dialed. You do not need to give the video relay operator the video phone number. Also, because the relayer and the VP user are signing to each other while the relayer is talking to you on a headset, unlike typing back and forth on a TTY relay call, you do not have to take turns talking and say, "Go ahead" when you are done speaking. However, there will be a very slight delay or lag in between responses due to the time necessary to interpret being the two languages.

Despite those two significant differences between calling a TTY user and calling a VP user, it is important to remember that the other rules of relay etiquette still apply. You should still identify yourself at the beginning of the conversation, you should still address the deaf person directly instead of in the third person, you should still speak clearly, and you should remember the relayer will sign everything you say.

Receiving Relay Calls

If someone calls you via relay, the operator will explain that he or she from the relay service and has a phone call from a person using a TTY or video phone. The operator will ask if you have received a relay call before. Unfortunately, many people who are not used to receiving relay calls mistake relay for a sales call and hang up. This can be frustrating to members of the Deaf community. Listen closely, and if you forget how to have a conversation using relay, simply ask for instructions, and the operator will assist you.

That may sound more difficult than what you're used to using the phone, but just imagine how deaf people must use relay to call hearing people every day. Also, many deaf people really appreciate you contacting them directly instead of always relying on their hearing friends to relay messages to them. For one thing, it allows them to be involved in planning and decision making. Other means of telecommunications you can use to contact deaf people include text messaging, email, and instant messaging (IM).